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February 25th, 2005
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Thoughts on the subjects of marriage and accordions
Most people do have a few things in mind about their ideal spouse; certain criterion and preferences. I've been fairly vague in mine up to this point; I'd *prefer* but not require someone of similar religious beliefs, someone with at least a solid grasp of English.. and I like my women with longer hair, but 'long' is very fungible. The usual man desires are there: pretty face, nice chest and rear.. but I've yet to encounter boobs or buns I haven't liked. Beyond that, it's been the generalities everyone seems to have: intelligent, sense of humor, kind, generic generic generic. However...

Well, let me pause for a moment to speak about the accordion, and polka music.

I enjoy quite a wide range of music and musical instruments, from computer-produced techno to grinding guitar metal to banjo-twanged country to orchestras performing symphonies. Jazz and opera I'm not the fondest of, but I can listen to them and yet be entertained. I've got a high fondness for certain instruments though, good guitar, whatever techno loop they play on Da Rude's "Sandstorm", those swishy-brushes drummers sometimes use for rain-like sounds.. and, the accordion. Part of it might be an attraction to the two nerd-rock pillars that have been with me since the 80's, They Might Be Giants's John Linnell and Weird Al Yankovic. But, I just generally like the sound the instrument makes, it's not quite the full-bodied richness of an Organ, yet seems somehow fuller than a Piano, less tinny and more organic. I enjoy the rock-accordions of Corn Mo, Those Darn Accordions.. and yes, the more traditional application of the instrument in the Polka.

Polka is party music; it's designed to be danceable, in a semi-formal fashion like square dancing, two-step, or tango. And there are many people who do dance the polka, at polkafests and gatherings in the midwest and east coast. It's mostly an older crowd, retirees who dress up in traditional outfit, dance, and have fun. About two years ago, I listened to Garrison Keillor describe these polkafests on aPHC, and.. while like so much of his work, it was layered over with sentimentality.. I couldn't help but recognize the appeal to me. The idea of hopping in the RV on a weekend, and driving a few hundred miles to dance the night with other folks like yourself. That's magic.

I'm 29, to turn 30 in May. I'm not as young as I used to be, but nether am I so old yet as to get into the polka scene. That's really for those of AARP age, and, God willing, one day I'll be of that age. For now, I'll just enjoy the local Polka broadcasts on WCNI, Thursdays from 3-6. maybe I'll pick up some mp3s or find an internet-radio polka station.

But, I've come to realizations about a very specific desire for marriage, much like cornrelish's Waffle-tossing Criteria.. I am looking to find someone where when I'm.. say, 57, I can stretch out after a day of work, sit beside her on the couch, and say.. "You know hon.. how would you feel about taking some polka lessons?". And she'd say "Oh.. hmm.. well sure, we could try that. We do need to get out more.". Or better yet, "Oh yes, my grandfather liked Polka and I've always been curious.." . But I'd even accept "I don;t know about that, but if you really want to, we could give it a shot."

In other words: I'm looking for someone who would dance the polka with me when we're old and grey.


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Date:February 25th, 2005 01:18 pm (UTC)
Awww. :o)
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Date:February 25th, 2005 01:31 pm (UTC)
Okay, you might not take me a seriously considering I'm already of AARP age, but polka and square dancing aren't just for "old folks". I think the myth that they are is why youngsters don't participate, or at the very least, don't want their friends to know.

Growing up with an uncle who was very much into both, I was introduced to them, as well as ballroom dancing, at a very early age. My uncle called square dancing.

When I graduated from high school in 1972, I decided to do something different at my party. My uncle set up his sound system in our garage and I strung christmas lights for added effect. When it got dark, I announced to my friends we were going to have a polka and square dancing festival. Of course, I've always marched to a different drummer, and there were several looks of disbelief. But once the music started and my cousins and I got on the floor and began square dancing, my friends saw what fun we were having and joined in. By the time we got to the polka music (so my uncle could rest), almost everyone at the party was dancing.

I had many friends tell me later that it was one of the best parties they'd attended, specifically because of the unique dancing.

I haven't danced either in years. Gordon isn't much for dancing to begin with, let alone polka, even though his mother was born and raised in Germany. I mentioned ballroom dancing once to a very negative result.

So, I guess I'll just spend my retirement riding roller coasters and being one of those little old ladies to see in the casinos playing the table games and slot machines.
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Date:February 26th, 2005 04:56 am (UTC)
Well, yes, you can polka when you're young. You can also do shuffleboard and play bingo- my younger sister, 27, *loves* to play bingo. That said, the dancin' I do now can be a little more spastic and performed to a techno beat; as I age, that will change and the Polka shall become a greater attraction.

*smiles* You had a cool uncle, and that must have been an excellent graduation party. It's a bummer you don't have a polka-compatible hubby.. you know the yearning for which I'm craving. You have DDR to keep your feet busy at least. :)

And if you ever want to polka with me, Ebony, let me know. :)

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Date:February 25th, 2005 04:26 pm (UTC)
One of my favorite lines about getting old was in a Jimmy Buffett song:

"And he says, when I get old and grey, and feel like I'm marooned, he will take me in his rocket ship to that beach house on the moon."

I suppose I could learn the polka... though I've always found the idea of getting to go places fascinating, too, and when you retire, you have time to do those things.

That is, IF you don't get your retirement screwed over by idiots who want you to lose it all in the stock market.
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Date:February 26th, 2005 04:59 am (UTC)
Travel is always something I like to do.. and Polka trips of that sort are reasonable-budget expenditure. I'm sure you'd be wanting to see space launches in Florida still when you're a senior citizen.

Beach house ont he moon, hmmm. Just off Mare Imbrium...

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