Focus - Mongologue
I'm using LJ to talk about how I'm spending too much time using LJ. Which seems either hypocritical or self-referential, but it's the simple truth that this is where to talk about it. In keeping with 2007's overriding theme of focus, I'm going to take a look at where 90% or more of my time is actually spent- everyone else's LJ
- and look with an eye towards reduction. That's right, folks, it's an ax-post. Time to trim down, with the usual polite note on how removal from a friends list is meant with no unfriendliness, it's just that I spend over an hour every day
keeping up and that has to be cut back.
So, let me take a look at whom exactly is in my friends list, or has friended me, and see where the scythe shall reap. But there's no reason to be a particularly *grim* reaper...
First off, anyone who's been going "Wait, why am I reading this LJ?", now's the time to remove me. I will take no offense in being removed from your friends list, because several of you are probably treading water to stay afloat the same. It's all about what folks have time for, not about 'friendship' levels. Also note, while this is part of serious focus in my life- don;t take your classification too seriously. This was written at 4am after all.
Now. Time to classify like Linnaeus. You may fall under more categories than the one you are listed under, but I'm not drawing Venn diagrams.Category 1: Keepers
People who are pretty darn undroppable due to longtime friendship and/or nookie source:buran
Thought-provoking people whose comments section tells more about me than my own LJ does:austin_dern
Secondary journals from people whose main journal I read, and their other journal has an interesting focus too:boventauren
SinaiMuck people who remain cool as ever:boingdragon
Cool artists/creators, whose works I like to keep track of:jedd_marten
Local furries who I ought hang out with more:shirotenshi
They update twice a year at best, but I don't want to miss it if they do:alice_in_texas
Felines whom are more like acquaintances-plus than deep friends, but whom have interesting journals and are important professional contacts, and whom I would not mind talking more with but don't want to be pushy or bothersome:bigtig
Excitable chicks, and no, that's not what I mean by 'excitable', *meef ack ouch* stop hitting me! Enthusiastic chicks who just make me smile with their posts because it's good to hear of good things happening to them, and who need comfort when they're down.cornrelish
People newly added, and while in a probationary period, I'll probably end up reading regularly:annakitfox
Miscellaneous other folks:bloogryffe
, tchallCategory 2: Likely to be axed.
Hey, where'd she go?cplady
Folks who were closer once, but we've drifted apart. dakhun
Uhm, not that you're not a cool and froody person, but why are we watching each other's LJ again?gabrielnotchear
, snowdogCategory 3: Also friend of:
Acquaintances that aren't friended, that I probably will not add to friends list. I'm trying to trim down, man! But hey, if you want to keep an eye on my LJ, that's cool, feel free.captpackrat
Give me a while to ponder, brah, I just met you two weeks ago: the_nighteyes
And Iiiiii think that's everyone.
People whine about LJ and its 'Friends' system, and they're not half wrong, but at least in the best LJ way, they have a half-assed backwards solution to one perceived problem.
The Friends Groups system is probably the least used part of it, and most people probably use it to make even more exclusive posts than just "friends-only" but it can work the other way. You can use it to just view posts by members in the group. I'll let the FAQ entry
You can also go directly to a filtered version of your Friends page by appending the group's name to the end of your Friends page URL. For example, if you had a friends group called group1, you could visit http://mongologue.livejournal.com/friends/group1 to see only entries from members of group1.
Secretly cut down your LJ reading angst free!
Furthermore, there's much more impoortant trick: Default View and Mobile View: If you create a custom friends group named Default View, your standard Friends page will display entries from your "Default View" group.
Right now there's about a dozen people not on the Default View, almost entirely ones that are ax-consideration. One or two that I just peek in every month or so on tho'.
Actually you can do some serious filtering and even change the default view that others see too (without axing). I did this to allow for a longer monthly cycle before having to go back.
While putting them on a different list for example I have a filter of chatty folks. I only want one daily poster which Austin has earned. There are some folks that I may move to the new list if I won't want to know what's going on with them.
So I think the system is sufficient you should filter not delete.
Here's the thing tho'. Let's say person X is already filtering me out or is pondering it, and I'm filtering them out or pondering it. Why are the two of us even bothering to stay friended, then?
I do make good use of Default View, but I'm also looking to eliminate pretenses, however polite. Some folks, while fine people, simply aren't close enough friends for me to keep up with, and I do wonder a bit why they want to keep up with me?
|Date:||February 11th, 2007 03:20 pm (UTC)|| |
*giggles uncontrollably* I'm glad my entries (for the most part) cheer you up, and I'm definitely glad to be in your "keep" list. Though, as I have said to many others, I would not take offense if you dropped me. That's life.
However, I'm very pleased to be staying. Besides, who else would know to put me in charge of the SuperSponsor Pre-Registration line at AC? *winks*
*chuckles* I believe we will be putting you right back there again come 2007; I expect to be most reliant on you, Krin, and Derecho for assistants (though New-reg might need you more!).
Excitable, you. :) And I'm glad you wouldn't take offense, it's good to keep up with you and your goings on, but yes, it's not mission-critical objectives.
|Date:||February 11th, 2007 08:57 pm (UTC)|| |
I'll do my best to be there, but it's me trying to take Leave outside of the time normally allowed (by a day or two). Let's see what the next few months bring, eh?
We've only met once, so I'm not surprised or upset about the cut. It was nice to have met you, and I wish you well.
Thanks Keith. You're an all right guy, but I must keep LJ tamed.
Oh Noes, I'm on probation!
Gah, does this mean I have to be interesting somehow or a piece of shiny paper will draw your attention away?
pwetty pwease, dont ax me, i pwomis to be a good wolfie. I'd love to hang out again sometime LOL.
*chuckles* It would be good to hang out again, yup.
*squeeee* i feel special du der duuuu. Whatcha doing friday night btw, im trying to throw together a makeshift bowling thingie up in springfield, ma. I know i have at least one fur, a jolly good wolf from rhode island. Just curious thats all, dont hurt me?
Friday night I'm workin'. As most Friday nights are. my days off from work are Sunday and Mondya, and I work late.. gettting out at 10:30pm.
|Date:||February 12th, 2007 12:05 am (UTC)|| |
No problem here, m'dear. This is exactly the sort of thing I was advocating and pondering at New Year's. Feel free to trim my journal, and when I wander through FM again, I'll look you up. *snugs*
Sounds like a deal! *snugs back*
A wise thing to do indeed, mongi. Between concern, and keeping up with friend friends, and just good old fashioned information overload, you'll probably benefit in the long run.
Of course, you mention 'over an hour' each day... thanks to my Blackberry and otherwise pervasive computing in my life, for me, try... two? Three on weekends.
Last thought - ego being what it is, I chuckle to see that martinisat8
makes the cut. Nothing like bandwidth devouring scans of old advertisments for that friends list, eh? I'm surprised no one has complained. :)
Over an hour is perhaps conservative a statement. It's a lot of time. And a lot of it is good, mind.
Well, Martinis@8 is entertaining, allows me creativite responses, and fast to process. All good things. :)
Awww..I feel special..and I've just been lurking lately, but at least I'm reading my friends' entries..
Lurking is good! Lurking I can keep up with. -1-)
|Date:||February 12th, 2007 05:01 pm (UTC)|| |
Ooo... and a few people I should add to mine I see.
Nooo! No adding! You're only perpetuating the cycle! *headthunks on desk*
|Date:||February 16th, 2007 08:38 pm (UTC)|| |
I won't add you, promise...I'll just sneak in through the bird's list of friends and spy on you...
Sings *I always feel like...somebody's watching me!!"
*snickers* See I'm watching you but on the Super Secret Alt's LJ! ;D Feel free to read. Everyone can feel free to read what they like about my goofy life, as much as ever.
I just don't want anyone to feel *obligated* to. :)